Many guys I meet do these hookups reluctantly, or at least somewhat reluctantly. After all, even though it's behind closed doors, there's some societal pressure that's been internalized. For some more than others, but in order to have a very healthy attitude about it requires a lot of self acceptance and liberal sexual attitudes. There are a few exceptions, however. For some reason, certain Southern and Appalachian boys seems to be a lot more fun and have fewer hangups. I'd love to know why that is, but I'm neither a sociologist nor a psychologist. This guy, Ringo, though doesn't quite fit the mold, either, but I have a good hunch as to why that is.